Decisions challenge me. What do I want? What will the outcome be–next month, next year, 10 years from now? What can I live with here and now?
Since moving to Los Angeles, almost everything has been unclear. But recently, I realized that I have made significant decisions before, and they haven’t been disastrous.
{My first visit to Lawrence, during my senior year of high school}
When I was younger, I decided to leave California to go to a small, Midwestern liberal arts college. Having experienced anxiety since the start of adolescence, Wisconsin felt like a balm to my worried mind.
Other issues arose while I was there, of course, but my mind did calm.
It wasn’t easy, at 18, to pack up my bags and face the decision I’d made. I remember the night before I flew halfway across the country. I had cold feet akin to what I’d imagine soon-to-be-newlyweds might feel. I was sick with dread, and my parents could tell. My mom reminded me that I didn’t actually have to go.
But I did it anyway. I lugged my overstuffed Samsonite suitcase to the airport and boarded the plane.
At Lawrence University, I found heartbreak and failure, but I also found success and the soothing serenity of sleepy Appleton, Wisconsin. I found the calm that had drawn me there, as promised. And if one good thing came out of it, it was that respite from the racket in my brain. The space to open up new passions, even while grappling with new losses.
What are the most important decisions you’ve made, and how do you feel about the outcomes? How would you describe your approach to decision-making?